Not to brag or anything but Avery is usually a great napper. I know what happens when I get to braggin’ about my kid; karma swoops in and shows me whose boss. It happened again folks. We are on day 2 of a napping hiatus and it has me very worried. I can honestly count on both hands the times she hasn’t taken a nap. See sometimes I may take a nap I mean do housework when Avery is napping. I am not prepared for these days to end.
It all started yesterday when we had Christmas on husband’s side of the family. By the time we left to go home it was probably 3:30. Since we have been living in a fog (literally) since Thursday it took longer than usual to get home. A fifteen minute drive stretched into about a half hour. Of course Avery fell asleep in the car which I really didn’t want her to because it was getting a little to late for a nap. When we got home she was up and not happy about it. But I made her stay up until bedtime because the consequences of a late nap are worse than no nap at all. Since I knew I wasn’t going to be napping I mean getting work done I figured she might as well be up. I actually did and still do have a lot of housework to do because I have been on some sort of strike lately.
Today I decided that when Avery was napping I was going to tackle the majority of my housework. Well she decided it for me because there was no way she was going to let me clean. So I pushed my lunch back so I could get her down early with enough time to eat, clean and maybe blog a little. Even though today is perfect napping weather. It is so dreary and has been for days. Up to bed we went except my plan failed miserably. She refused to nap. Ugh! I swear she knows when I have plans to do something!
I never thought that Avery not napping could strike so much fear with me. I guess I got really used to our afternoon naps I mean “quiet” time. If there was a game show called Best Napper we would definitely be coming home with a lifetime supply of something. Especially Avery. The girl is not good at sleeping at night but if it’s after noon give that girl a pillow cause she’s going down. So now I sit at the computer jealous of my cat because he is curled up sleeping in my bed while I get to listen to the ABC Song on Avery’s new school bus magnet for the 100th time since yesterday. I did treat myself to a Sprite so that helps. I have to wonder “Am I the only parent that depends on their kid or kids napping everyday?” I really thought this nap thing would carry out for at least another year or so. Avery was a little over a year old when she quit napping twice a day. Now that was the cat’s meow let me tell ya. One nap for chores then another nap for relaxation; I mean more chores.
How old were you’re kids when they stopped napping? Did it ruin your life? Feel free to comment because I need to know if my napping days are over so I can appropriately mourn them 🙂
We are moving into our second week of potty training and the end of our first month in the big girl bed. The more literature I read I am understanding it is not recommended to do both at the same time. I am starting to understand why.
After many attempts of going on the big potty Sunday we had success. Not only did we have a number one but we had a number two as well. I was so excited I wanted to take a picture! (I decided against it) So Avery got a star on her potty chart, a big hug and kiss from her momma and her potty made the princess noises. Avery could have cared less. She pulled up her pants and walked away still checking her emails on her Leap Frog laptop. I didn’t let that deter me; I was on the horn telling tons of people how Avery went on the potty and what a good girl she is. Fast-forward two days and we are back on the potty. We have sat since but no dice until today. I could tell it was going to happen and I was super excited until I peeked in the bathroom; there was Avery with her laptop and a pile of poop on the floor. She had dropped her laptop so she hopped off the potty and I am assuming while she was picking it up she pooped on the floor. Ugh! I did get her back on in time for her to finish her duty on the potty. (Does that get a half star then?) I do blame myself because I should have been in there with her but of course I just wanted to finish up washing a couple of dishes and I could still see her from the kitchen so I thought that would be good enough.So again my bragging about my child totally came back to haunt me. (You would think I would learn my lesson) I guess it could have been worse and I am assuming more jobbies will end up on the floor. She did seem disturbed that her poop was on the floor so maybe she will let the laptop go next time until she is done.
The big girl bed has been going better than I thought but we have been having some hiccups. It seems like Avery likes to crawl in bed with us around 3:00 or 4:00 a.m. every other night or so. I also have a problem not falling asleep in her bed. Last night I was so tired when I put her to bed that I think I fell asleep in there. I am pretty sure I did anyway. I vaguely remember getting up and going to our bed in the middle of the night. Unless I was sleep walking or dreaming which we all know how vivid and realistic my dreams are so it could have very well been a dream. Then my worry always has to kick in. I sit and wonder “Is she still breathing” “Is she warm enough?” Then I have to go and check. After I am done shining my phone on her to see if she is breathing and tucking the blankets around her one more time; I am surprised she is still sleeping through all of my poking and prodding.
Before we started any of this business we talked about doing one at a time. We both decided on the big girl bed first because we were sick of getting pelted with tiny fists and feet every night. But then I started to realize that Avery needed to sit on that potty and I didn’t want to miss my window. She does seem “aware” that she is going potty and she does not want any of that poopy business in her diaper. I am hoping that this works out and we can just do both at the same time. I knew there would be trials and tribulations with both (especially potty training) so I better just stock up on Lysol wipes and dive in. Am I crazy? I probably am but if I can be done with diapers and get some sleep I will be a very happy crazy person 🙂
I hate to call parenting a job but I have been wracking my brain all day and I can’t think of another word so that’s that and a bag of chips. Anyway, in a previous post I said that Avery got a big girl bed. It is going okay but the other night was pretty rough. We went to bed around 8:00 and she finally fell asleep around 10:30. At about 10:40 she was up and on her way to our bed. I intercepted her with one foot on the bed and we returned to her bed. At 3:00 a.m. I woke up I was still in Avery’s bed. Crap. Worst part about it was I woke up to Avery crawling over me to get out of her bed. Ugh. So we proceeded to the couch because at this point I was ready to try anything just to get some sleep. The couch didn’t work so I did what no parent should probably do according to the book of parenting. I put her in our bed. I know, I know it was wrong but I was soooo tired. I think I get one mommy point by leaving her in our bed alone until she fell asleep by herself. I did sneak in a couple of precious hours of snooze time on the couch. I am happy to report that the last two nights she has slept in her own bed and she also took a nap in there 🙂 It was so nice to sleep without a toddler kicking and hitting me. I know I am probably jinxing myself by talking about how she slept in her bed but I will take the chance.
When I found out I was pregnant I never would have guessed how hard it was to be a parent. The lack of sleep, the dirty factor, the things they don’t tell you about parenting etc. But I also never would have guessed how rewarding it would be either. Avery is a little behind in the talking area so I have been scouring the internet trying to find tips on helping her to talk. I came across this wonderful blog that gives tips and things on how to help your toddler to talk. One of the tips was to do board puzzles. So this morning we sat down and did some puzzles. When Avery started speeding through the puzzles and putting them back together I was so happy and excited! Not only for me but for her! She was so happy every time she would put a piece in and we would clap and say yay. It was so cool to see her learning so fast and what was even better was that I taught her. I have never been much of a teacher and was a little scared about that aspect of parenting but I swear kids are like an open canvas waiting to learn. (She has been playing with her puzzles for a while now but we really never sat down and focused just on them.) I also never knew how much my heart would just fill up with love for this little person at 3:00 a.m. when she reaches over and grabs my hand. (I have always been the type of person that needed 12 hours of sleep a night at least so if I like you at 3:00 a.m. after an hour of sleep you are pretty special) Now the other night things got kinda hairy, I will admit but when she slept in until 9:30 this morning I missed her. There are times when I think ugh I need a break. But when I do get a break about an hour into it I miss her and usually want to go home. Even though I hate when she is sick, I love all of the extra cuddles ❤ Last week she was not feeling well and had a fever so I put one of her little frog princess washcloths on her forehead and she fell asleep like that. It was so cute I wanted to take a picture but I didn’t dare because I wanted her to sleep. Every time I think gosh I just can’t love this little person more she holds my hand, learns something new or hugs my legs and then I realize I will always be able to love her more.
It seems like you could be on a good parenting high like no other and then you take your kids out in public and they’re like bam gotcha! Like when you take your child out in public and they throw a massive fit and run around like they belong in a zoo. Or when you run into someone and their child is roughly the same age as your child and they have to go on and on about how their child is so much more advanced then yours. I hate that!! I try not to let it bug me but it always does. All three have happened to me lately and it makes me want to stay home and order all of our groceries online so I never have to leave the house again. But then I realize it’s all part of the “job” I have to say this is the best “job” I have ever had. (If any of my past co-workers woke me up in the middle of the night one of us wouldn’t have made it until morning.) It’s the only one where the “person” or “people” you are working for kiss, hug and look up to you. I think one of the best things about the “job” is when Avery needs something and I am the only person she wants. If she is crying I am the one she wants, if she wants to cuddle or is tired it is only me that can do the job right. I love that! Not that I want her to cry or be in need but I think you get the picture. With every job there are things that a person dislikes and things a person likes. I can honestly say that with this “job” the likes turn into loves and the dislikes are easily and soon forgotten 🙂
The time has come Avery has finally gotten her big girl bed. Not that she has spent a lot of time in it but it’s there. I had high hopes for her new bed but those got dashed at 12:30 a.m. Sunday morning. All of a sudden I was awakened by little feet and crying. I think she was pretty appalled to wake up in her bed.
I guess I have a confession. I have been letting Avery sleep with us. There I said it. Do I feel better? Not really. It all started when she started getting teeth. Before those stupid teeth she was a great sleeper. She would fall asleep by herself all the time. I could actually lay her down when she was still awake and she would put herself to sleep. I think I jinxed us because I bragged too much. I am sure people wanted to slap me when I would say things like “My daughter is such a good sleeper, she sleeps all night.” I saw the eye rolls but I chose to ignore them. Maybe people went home and thought to themselves I hope that little girl quits sleeping so that lady would shut up. Well their wish came true.
At first it wasn’t too bad cause she would sleep in her swing. But the catch to that was her swing was in the living room so one of us would sleep on the couch. At first it was like a t.v. lovers dream. Golden Girls, That 70’s show and tons of my other favs. I would stay up late soaking up all of that t.v. goodness ❤ But then I woke up one day and my back was killing me, then it was my neck and then well you get the picture; I felt like I was 103 years old. So we tried putting her in her crib. I think she really did laugh at us when we did that. She cried so hard one night she puked. Then we sold our house (thank God, we had the worst neighbors ever!!) and we moved into a rental for the winter until we found a house. Our rental was very small so I felt more comfortable leaving her in the swing in the living room when we were asleep in the bedroom. After about a month in the rental she outgrew her swing. I think she actually broke it because she was way to big to be in there. That is how we ended up in our current situation.
Back to the present. We are three nights into the big girl bed. First night she was in her bed sleeping for four wonderful hours:) Second night she laid in bed for two hours until I gave up and laid with her on the couch until she fell asleep. She did have a stuffy nose and fever so I did feel bad for her. Tonight will be the third night. I am hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. She did surprise me today by falling asleep on the couch by herself for a nap so maybe we will have a good night 🙂
One thing I wasn’t prepared for was my reaction to the big girl bed. I have been dreaming about the day she slept in her own bed for months. I had plans like reading, writing and of course t.v. watching. When my dream came true and she fell asleep in her own bed I cried for about 15 minutes. Ugh! I am not sure why but her whole little life so far started flashing before my eyes and then thoughts of the future. I had her married off with her own kids in about five minutes after she fell asleep. I kept thinking oh my gosh she doesn’t need me anymore. Wow was I crazy!! Maybe I should have listened to “Let It Go” a couple of times. When I came down the stairs sobbing I think husband thought I was nuts 😉 So I pulled myself together and enjoyed some 48 Hours Mystery before I fell asleep. Which totally backfired because I ended up having a nightmare that the murderer on the show was chasing me and I had to call 911. Normally I would just keep this to myself but I woke husband up by yelling out “He’s coming” and “11 Center st.” in my sleep so I guess the jig is up. I am assuming I was on the phone with 911 at the time so that’s where the “He’s coming” is from and 11 Center st. is our old address. I can’t even sleep without embarrassing myself.
Wish us luck tonight! I know it is going to take Avery a while to transition into a new bed but I am hoping for smooth sailing 🙂 Maybe by the time she is 16 she will be in her own room 🙂